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Honey, Our Marriage Needs Help: Healing, Restoring and Rebuilding God’s Ways

Are you tired of the distance, the arguments, the loneliness, even when you are living under the same roof?

Do you feel like your broken marriage is beyond repair?

Have you prayed, tried, and hoped only to end up discouraged, wondering if things will ever change?

You are not alone.

And there is hope.

Many couples today are struggling not because they have stopped caring. But because they have been fighting the wrong battles, using the world’s methods. They are trying to fix their marriage without God at the centre.

Real healing does not come from better communication, clever techniques, or temporary fixes. It comes from God and His ways. It is a way of humility, forgiveness, repentance, and love that reflects the heart of Christ.

This comprehensive, life-changing book written in plain English is your invitation to a divine miracle and personal encounter with God.

God never intended your marriage to be a battlefield. He designed it to be a living picture of His love – a covenant relationship built on grace, unity, and faithfulness. And no matter how deep the pain and sorrow, how long the silence, or how many times you have said “I give up,” you can heal, restore and rebuild your marriage.

In Honey, Our Marriage Needs Help, you will discover how to:

Return to God’s original design for marriage – oneness, love, and mutual respect.
Break free from anger, blame, and bitterness that have taken root.
Heal from past wounds, childhood trauma, and generational strongholds.
Rebuild trust, intimacy, and emotional safety in your relationship.
Forgive deeply, love sacrificially, and serve one another like Christ.
Put on the full armour of God and stand firm against spiritual attacks.
Pray together as a couple and invite God into the heart of your marriage.
Stop the cycle of dysfunction and raise children in a home of peace and faith.

This is more than a marriage guide. It is a step-by-step journey back to God’s purpose for your relationship, rooted in Scripture, filled with grace, and written in plain, compassionate English for everyday couples (and even for struggling parents).

What is inside this practical handbook?

Biblical truths that bring real change and heart transformation, not condemnation or religious guilt.
Practical steps to restore love, rebuild trust, and renew your vows before God.
Powerful insights on healing identity wounds, overcoming shame, and breaking generational curses.
Guidance on parenting from a restored marriage and raising godly children on a godly foundation.
Tools to fight spiritual battles, guard your home, and lead your family in faith.
Real hope for those where one spouse is unwilling but the other is still willing to try.

Whether you are newly married, decades into your journey, or on the brink of separation, this comprehensive handbook is for you.

Why this plain English handbook is for you:

If you have said, “We need help,” but don’t know where to start, you will find a clear path forward with prayer prompts to guide you.
If you are tired of fighting the same battles, you will learn how to fight for your marriage, not against your spouse.
If you are hurt by betrayal, neglect, or abandonment, you will discover how God heals what is broken or brings down strongholds.
If you want your marriage to reflect Christ’s love, this book shows you how – step by step, prayer by prayer.
If you are raising children in a broken home, you will learn how to break the cycle and raise a new generation of faith.

This is not just for pastors or perfect couples. It is for everyone – everyday believers, singles entering marriage, married couples, busy parents, blended families, and married seniors – who want a marriage that lasts, not just survives.

Take your journey deeper with practical application

To help you walk out the principles in this book, we include reflection questions and prayer prompts at the end of each chapter. They are perfect for personal growth or couple devotions. These tools will help you apply God’s Word to your unique situation and experience transformation.

Your marriage was never meant to be destroyed. It was meant to be redeemed, restored and flourish.

God heals brokenness. He can restore what was lost. He can rebuild your love on a foundation that will last for life and eternity.

Now is the time to say: “Honey, our marriage needs help.” And then add: “But with God, we can be healed, restored, and rebuilt, His way.”

Your journey to a stronger, godly marriage starts today. Do not settle for separation, silence, or survival. You were made for love, healing, and wholeness.

Get your copy now and begin the journey back to each other and back to God.

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Introduction

Building a godly family on a godly foundation

Why does your marriage come first
Healing your marriage prepares you to parent with grace
Raising godly children starts with a godly vision
Modelling the principles: When parents live what they teach
Breaking the cycle: Parenting without passing on spiritual strongholds
Spiritual warfare for identity and unity
Final thought: Healing, restoring, and rebuilding God’s way

Practical learnings from marriages in the Bible

Adam and Eve – The first marriage
Cain and his wife – A marriage without God
Seth and his wife – A line of faith
Noah and his wife – A marriage through the storm
Abraham and Sarah – A marriage of promise and mistakes
Isaac and Rebekah – A love story guided by God
Jacob, Leah, and Rachel – A marriage complicated by sin
Moses and Zipporah – A marriage tested by obedience
Samson’s marriages – Warnings against worldliness
Ruth and Boaz – A marriage of kindness and redemption
David and Michal – A marriage broken by pride
Solomon and many wives – A warning about compromise
Joseph and Mary – A marriage built on obedience
What we learn from all these marriages

Section 1: God’s purpose and plan for marriage

God’s design for marriage
A Biblical model for marriage
The Trinity and marriage
The fear of God in marriage
Marriage is not salvation, but Christ is
God’s marriage covenant and wedding vows
Conclusion: Returning to God’s purpose

God’s design for marriages

Key insights from the Bible verses
Why this matter
Practical application for married couples
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

A Biblical model for marriage

God at the top: The foundation of marriage
Drawing closer to God individually
Being led by the Holy Spirit
Unity in marriage comes from being in God’s presence
Imbalance in the Triangle of Love
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

The Trinity and marriages

The role of God the Father
The role of Jesus Christ, the Son
The role of the Holy Spirit
The combined impact of the Trinity on marriages
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

The fear of God in marriage

The fear of God keeps the marriage healthy
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer

Marriage is not salvation, but Christ is

The idol of marriage
Christ is the source, marriage is the reflection
You cannot pour from an empty cup
The dangers of putting your spouse on a pedestal
How to keep Christ at the centre of your marriage
When marriage hurts, Christ still heals
Marriage would not last forever, but Christ will
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

God’s marriage covenant and wedding vows

What is a covenant?
Marriage reflects God’s relationship with his people
Unfaithfulness in marriage mirrors unfaithfulness to God
Marital faithfulness honours God and strengthens your relationship
Understanding wedding vows: A sacred promise
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Section 2 – Authority, commitment and authority

Embracing authority in marriage
Honouring our parents
Loyalty, faithfulness and commitment
Mutual submission between spouses
Servanthood in marriage
Authentic human connection
Headship and responsibility, not domination
Conclusion: Building a marriage on God’s foundation

Embracing authority in marriage

The centurion’s faith: A model of submission to authority
Why is submitting to God’s authority important?
Practical examples of authority in daily life
Key principles about authority in marriage
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Honouring our parents

What does honouring our parents mean?
The link between honouring parents and marriage
The first commandment with a promise
Practical ways to honour our parents
Honouring parents even when it is difficult
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Loyalty, faithfulness and commitment

Loyalty – Guarding your heart and home
Why couples find it hard to be loyal to each other
Faithfulness: the ultimate expression of love
Why couples find it difficult to be faithful to each other
Commitment: standing firm through every season
Why couples find it difficult to be committed to each other
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Mutual submission between spouses

Key insights from the Bible verses
Why does this matter to married couples
Practical application for married couples
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Servanthood in marriage

What is servanthood in marriage?
Servanthood modelled after Jesus
Good servant
Servanthood for the husband
Servanthood for the wife
Servanthood for the couple
How to cultivate servanthood in marriage
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Authentic human connection

What is happening to our social skills?
Technology and the erosion of presence
Why authentic connection matters for married couples
How to build authentic connection in marriage
Why authentic connection is harder than ever
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Headship and responsibility, not domination

Key insights from Ephesians 5:22-23
What does the bible say about headship?
Christ is the model of true leadership
Headship requires protection and provision
Headship means leading with love, not fear
Headship includes accountability and humility
Wives are called to respect and support
How to grow in Christ-like leadership
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Section 3 – Love, responsibility and acceptance

Love in marriage
Intimacy in marriage
Sexual intimacy in marriage
Mutual responsibility in marriage
Accepting your spouse as they are
Speaking the truth in love
Guarding your marriage from emotional affairs
Building trust and emotional safety
Emotional neglect and its impact on marriage
Stepping into our callings as a couple
Conclusion: The path to a renewed marriage

Love in marriages

Key insights from the Bible verses
The five love languages
Why this matter
Practical application for married couples
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Intimacy in Marriage

Spiritual intimacy – Growing together in faith
Emotional intimacy – Building trust and vulnerability
Physical intimacy – Celebrating oneness
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Sexual intimacy in marriage

The importance of sexual intimacy in marriage
What sexual intimacy does for marriages
Biblical principles for sexual intimacy
Practical steps to nurture sexual intimacy
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Mutual responsibility in marriage

Key insights from the Bible verses
Practical application for married couples
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Accepting your spouse as they are

How opposites create balance
Accepting that only God can change people
Embracing your spouse as God’s unique creation
Love your spouse instead
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Speaking the truth in love

What does “speaking the truth in love” mean?
Why truth without love hurts marriages
Why love without truth fails in marriage
Key insights from Ephesians :
Practical ways to speak the truth in love in marriage
Real-life scenarios: Applying Ephesians : in marriage
Healing past wounds through truth and love
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Guarding your marriage from emotional affairs

Key insights from 1 Corinthians 6:18
What is an emotional affair?
Why do people embark on affairs?
Emotional faithfulness vs. lust outside the marriage bed
Practical ways to guard your marriage from affairs
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Building trust and emotional safety

What is trust in marriage?
Restoring trust after it has been broken
What is emotional safety in marriage?
Why are trust and emotional safety so important?
How trust and emotional safety are broken
Signs that trust and emotional safety are missing
Practical ways to build trust and emotional safety
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Emotional neglect and its impact on marriage

What is emotional neglect in marriage?
Why emotional neglect hurts so deeply
Common causes of emotional neglect
The effects of emotional neglect on marriage
How to recognise emotional neglect
Steps to heal from emotional neglect
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Stepping into our callings as a couple

Key insights from Ephesians :
Supporting each other in individual callings
The general calling of a married couple
Partnership, not pressure
Seek God’s kingdom and righteousness first
A heart surrendered to God
Here we are, Lord send us
What is your specific shared calling as a married couple?
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Section 4 – Renewing hearts and minds

Softening hardened hearts
Renewing our minds for good marriages
Replacing negative thoughts and habits
The power of intentional kindness
Setting healthy boundaries
The power of ‘please’ and ‘sorry’
Praise and thanksgiving in marriage
Overcoming pride and self-justification
Resentment and bitterness in marriage
Conclusion: A fresh start from the inside out

Softening hardened hearts

Key insights from the Bible verses
Practical application for married couples
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Renewing our minds for good marriages

What is in the heart shows up in marriage
The connection between the heart and mind
What does it mean to renew the mind?
From old minds to new love: God’s design for marriage
How transformation happens
A new kind of marriage
Why this matter
Practical application for married couples
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Replacing negative thoughts and habits

The power of choice in thoughts and actions
Stop the negative train of thought early
Changing actions to change feelings
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

The power of intentional kindness

The power of words
The golden rule of marriage communication
Joking without hurting
Challenging each other with love
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Setting healthy boundaries

What are boundaries in marriage?
Setting boundaries
Maintaining healthy boundaries in marriage
Setting boundaries with extended family and relatives
Setting boundaries with friends
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

The power of ‘please’ and ‘sorry’

The importance of saying “please”
The transformative power of saying “sorry”
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Praise and thanksgiving in marriage

Why praise and thanksgiving matter in marriage
Examples of practising praise and thanksgiving in marriage
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Overcoming pride and self-justification

What is pride and why is it dangerous in marriage?
What is self-justification and how does it harm marriages?
The root of pride and self-justification
Signs of pride and self-justification in marriage
How pride destroys marriages
Practical steps to overcome pride and self-justification
Restoring your marriage through humility
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Resentment and bitterness in marriage

What they might look like
From resentment and bitterness to wrath, anger and evil speaking
Why do people become resentful in marriage?
The dangers of resentment and bitterness in marriage
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Section 5 – Living by the Spirit in marriage

When demanding your rights hurts your marriage
The beatitudes in marriage
Cultivating the fruit of the Spirit in marriage
Forgiveness in marriage
Happiness is a choice
Dying to self in marriage
Choose peace, love and gratitude
Working diligently on your marriage
The armour of God in marriage
Praying together as a couple
Sexuality and intimacy in marriage
Pornography, lust, and sexual purity in marriage
Conclusion: A marriage led by the spirit

When demanding your rights hurts your marriage

How insisting on rights can damage marriage
Biblical perspective of love over rights
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

The Beatitudes in marriage

Why the Beatitudes matter in marriage
The Beatitudes and their application to marriage
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Cultivating the fruit of the Spirit in marriage

Why the fruit of the Spirit matters in marriages
The fruit of the Spirit and its application to marriage
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Forgiveness in marriages

Key insights from Matthew 6:14–15
Do not blame God
Forgiving yourself
Forgiving your spouse
Forgiving others
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Happiness is a choice

What is happiness?
Constantly renew your mind
Intentionally choosing what is beneficial
Why is happiness important in marriage?
Happiness is a proactive choice, not just a feeling
The words and attitudes that foster happiness
Practical ways to cultivate a happy attitude
The difference between happiness and joy
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Dying to self in marriage

What is dying to self?
Why dying to self is important in marriage
Why we proactively choose to die to self
How to effectively die to self in marriage to glorify God
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Choose peace, love and gratitude

Intentionally choosing peace over strife
Choosing love over resentment
Choosing gratitude over dissatisfaction
Insights from 1 Corinthians 10:23
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Working diligently on your marriage

Understanding the analogy
Water your garden
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

The armour of God in marriage

Why the armour of God matters in marriage
The belt of truth – Speaking honestly and living authentically
The breastplate of righteousness – Protecting your hearts
The shoes of peace – Walking in harmony
The shield of faith – Trusting God together
The helmet of salvation – Guarding your mindset
The sword of the spirit – Using Scripture to strengthen your marriage
Prayer – The key to victory
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Praying together as a couple

Why praying together matters
The Biblical foundation for praying together
Common excuses for not praying together
Practical steps to start praying together
How praying together strengthens your marriage
Restoring your marriage through prayer
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Sexuality and intimacy in marriages

God created sex and He called it good
The connection between spiritual and physical intimacy
Why shame and confusion exist around sex
What the Bible teaches about marital intimacy
Overcoming common struggles in marital intimacy
How to cultivate both spiritual and physical intimacy
Restoring intimacy after betrayal or broken trust
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Pornography, lust, and sexual purity in marriage

How pornography affects the brain
How pornography hurts marriage
Can a marriage survive pornography use?
Why pornography is not just a sin; it is spiritual warfare
Understanding the root of lust
The Biblical call to sexual purity
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Section 6 – Facing challenges together

God hates divorce
Stop the blame game
Resolving conflicts biblically
When believers marry unbelievers
Remarriage and blended marriages
Navigating mid-life and life seasons
Resisting external pressures
Infertility, loss, and disappointment
Financial strain in marriage
Handling In-laws and extended family tensions
Spouse unwilling to work on the marriage
Navigating grief, illness, or disability in marriage
Conclusion: United in every storm

God hates divorce

Key insights from the Bible verses
Practical application for married couples
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Stop the blame game

How blame disempowers us
Blame vs. responsibility – Choosing empowerment over excuses
Why blame fails in marriage
Taking responsibility
Taking responsibility and addressing the root cause
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Resolving conflicts Biblically

Marriage is like a magnet
Understanding personality differences in marriage
Key insights from the Bible verses
Practical application for married couples
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

When believers marry unbelievers

Scenario 1: A believer knowingly marries an unbeliever
Scenario 2: A spouse becomes a believer after marriage
When the unbeliever chooses to leave
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Remarriage and blended marriages

Biblical foundations for remarriage
What is a blended marriage?
Overcoming challenges
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Navigating mid-life and life seasons

What is a mid-life crisis?
What does the Bible say about mid-life crises?
How to avoid or overcome a mid-life crisis
Why this matter
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Resisting external pressures

Biblical foundations for handling external influences
Common external influences and how to overcome them
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Infertility, loss, and disappointment

The pain of infertility and child loss
Understanding the different forms of loss
How infertility and loss affect marriage
Why does this happen?
Biblical examples of hope and healing
Practical ways to cope and heal together
Dealing with comparison and cultural pressure
Finding meaning beyond motherhood or fatherhood
What about the question, “Is God saying ‘No’?”
Restoring hope and joy after loss
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Financial strain in marriage

Why financial strain hurts marriages
What the Bible says about money and marriage
Common causes of financial strain in marriage
Signs that money is causing problems in your marriage
Practical steps to manage finances together
Restoring unity through financial partnership
Finding peace when you are broke but not broken
Letting God be your provider
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Handling in-laws and extended family tensions

Why in-law relationships are often challenging
What does the Bible say about family relationships?
Common sources of in-law and family tension
Signs that family dynamics are hurting your marriage
Set healthy boundaries with in-laws and extended family
Practical ways to build respectful, healthy relationships
How to handle difficult or toxic in-laws
Support your spouse when they are struggling with their family
Handling extended family gatherings with grace
Restoring peace and unity after family struggles
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Spouse unwilling to work on the marriage

Understanding why one spouse would not engage
The pain of being the only one who cares
How to respond Biblically
Signs that your spouse may not be willing to change
Should you keep trying if your spouse would not?
Practical steps to take
Loving your spouse without losing yourself
What if your spouse is unwilling to come back?
Restoring hope when one person leads
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Navigating grief, illness, or disability in marriage

How grief, illness, and disability affect marriage
Navigating grief in marriage
Supporting each other through illness
Living faithfully through disability in marriage
When the burden feels too heavy
Practical steps to stay united through suffering
What if my spouse is the one who’s hurting me?
Finding meaning during suffering
Restoring joy after long-term suffering
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Section 7 – Healing the roots of identity

Seeing God as He is: Healing the father wound
Embracing your sonship and daughtership (Romans :–; Galatians :–)
Breaking orphan thinking
Overcoming shame and unworthiness
Conclusion: Identity is the foundation of intimacy

Seeing God as He is: Healing the Father wound

The pain we carry
How our view of God affects our marriage
Case study: Trusting God, trusting my wife
The absent father
The abusive father
The authoritarian father
The fun-loving but irresponsible father
The passive father
The performance-oriented father
The good father
Allow God to show you who He is
God is a Good Father
From brokenness to wholeness
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Embracing your sonship and daughtership

What is sonship and daughtership?
Why is knowing your identity so important?
How sonship/daughtership positively impacts individuals
How sonship/daughtership positively impacts marriage
How rejecting sonship/daughtership negatively impacts individuals
How rejecting sonship/daughtership negatively impacts marriage
Overcome negative issues
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Breaking orphan thinking

What is orphan thinking?
How orphan thinking negatively impacts individuals
How orphan thinking negatively impacts marriage
How orphan thinking can positively impact marriage (when transformed)
Relationship between orphan thinking and sonship/ daughtership
Transitioning from orphan thinking to sonship/ daughtership
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Overcoming shame and unworthiness

What is shame?
How shame hurts marriages
Why we feel unworthy even after salvation
Overcoming shame through identity in Christ
How shame affects spouses differently
Practical steps to overcome shame and live as God’s beloved
Restoring intimacy by overcoming shame
Dealing with religious or cultural shame
Letting God define your worth
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Section 8 – Uncovering past wounds and spiritual baggage

What you bring into your marriage shapes it
Idolatry
Ungodly vows, covenants, and agreements
Occult practices
Generational iniquities and sins
Generational curses
Spiritual strongholds
Childhood trauma impacts marriages
Soul ties and past relationships
Healing generational illnesses
Healing brokenness in marriage
Addictions can destroy marriages
Unrealistic expectations from parents, in-laws, relatives and cultures
Technology, social media, and marital distractions
Unresolved wounds or poor boundaries
Conclusion: Light, freedom, and a fresh start

What you bring into your marriage shapes it

The legacy you carry
Spiritual inheritance
Emotional inheritance
Physical inheritance
Breaking generational and spiritual bondages
How do they work together?
Common elements across all these bondages
How generational influences shape your marriage
Breaking negative cycles
Claiming God’s promises
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Idolatry

Understanding idolatry
Generational iniquities and curses often result from idolatry
Many occult practices involve idol worship
Ungodly covenants and agreements
How idolatry manifests across generations
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Ungodly vows, covenants, and agreements

Ungodly vows
Ungodly covenants
Ungodly agreements
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Occult practices

Occult practices create spiritual strongholds
Occult practices and idolatry
Ungodly covenants with demonic powers
Results in generational curses and iniquities
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Generational iniquities and sins

Strongholds that passed from one generation to another
Unrepented iniquities can lead to generational curses
Often stem from idolatry, ungodly vows, or covenants
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Generational curses

How do generational curses work?
What are the common signs of generational curses?
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Spiritual strongholds

What are spiritual strongholds?
How do strongholds form?
Signs you might be dealing with a stronghold
How your marriage can be impacted
How does this come about in a marriage?
Overcoming generational and spiritual bondages
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Childhood trauma impacts marriages

What is trauma?
What is childhood trauma?
Types of childhood trauma
Understanding unresolved childhood trauma
Signs of unresolved childhood trauma
Impact of emotional wounds on marriages
When two individuals come together in marriage
Practical steps to heal from trauma
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Soul ties and past relationships

What are soul ties?
How can soul ties affect your marriage?
Overcoming soul ties
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Healing generational illnesses

Understanding generational illnesses
Signs of generational illness patterns in families
Break free from generational illnesses
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Healing brokenness in marriage

What is brokenness?
How brokenness impacts a marriage
Overcoming brokenness in individuals
Overcoming brokenness in marriage
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Addictions can destroy marriages

What is an addiction?
Categories of addictions that affect marriages
How addictions destroy marriages
How game creators use spiritual themes to trap players
Dungeons & Dragons and Pokémon are spiritually dangerous
Games shape who you become
Gaming examples affecting marriages
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Unrealistic expectations from parents, in-laws, relatives and cultures

What are unrealistic or unhelpful expectations?
Categories of unrealistic or unhelpful expectations
How do these expectations affect individuals and couples?
What does the bible say about family expectations?
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Technology, social media, and marital distractions

Why technology hurts marriages
How social media affects marriages
Why couples turn to technology instead of each other
Signs that tech is harming your marriage
Practical steps to regain control over tech
Addressing the root causes behind digital distraction
Restoring presence and priority in your marriage
When one spouse refuses to change
Reclaiming your time and attention for each other
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Unresolved wounds or poor boundaries

What are unresolved wounds?
How unresolved wounds affect your marriage
The link between wounds and poor boundaries
What are healthy boundaries in marriage?
Common areas where marriages lack boundaries
Practical steps to begin healing wounds and setting boundaries
Restoring trust through boundaries
When one spouse resists boundaries
How to heal unresolved wounds
Restoring unity after wounds and walls
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Section 9 – Healing, restoring and rebuilding marriages

Healing marriages: Addressing the pain and brokenness
Restoring marriages: Bringing back what was lost
Rebuilding marriages: Starting afresh when everything feels broken
Renewing your vows before god
Conclusion: From brokenness to blessing

Healing marriages: Addressing the pain and brokenness

Understanding the healing process
Signs that your marriage may need healing
Practical steps for healing
Signs that healing is happening
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Restoring marriages: Bringing back what was lost

Signs that your marriage may need restoration
Signs that restoration is happening in a marriage
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Rebuilding marriages: Starting afresh when everything feels broken

Signs that your marriage may need rebuilding
Signs that rebuilding is happening in a marriage
Why this matter
Practical steps for rebuilding
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Renewing your vows before God

Why renew your vows?
The Biblical foundation for vow renewal
What does it mean to renew your vows before God?
Preparing your hearts spiritually
How to renew your vows biblically
Practical steps to restore your marriage after vow renewal
What to include in your vows
Real-life scenarios where vow renewal brought healing
How to lead your marriage into a new season
Restoring your home through covenant commitment
Why this matter
Reflect and respond
Pray this prayer
The takeaway

Appendixes

Appendix 1 – Marriage challenges

Abuse or control
Cultural or societal changes
Communication issues
Cultural or societal changes
External pressures and stressors
Financial stress and money issues
Growing apart and changes over time
Health issues and major life changes
Incompatibility
Inflexibility
Lack of appreciation
Lack of commitment and teamwork
Lack of conflict resolution skills
Lack of equality
Lack of forgiveness
Lack of fun, joy, and quality time
Lack of intimacy and emotional connection
Lack of personal growth
Lack of relationship maintenance
Lack of shared goals or vision
Legal or practical reasons
Mental health issues
Parenting conflicts
Sexual incompatibility
Technology and social media
Trust issues, infidelity, or betrayal
Unrealistic comparisons
Unrealistic expectations
Unresolved past issues and emotional baggage
Work and career strains

Appendix 2 – Overcoming marriage challenges

Abuse or control
Addiction or substance abuse
Communication issues
Cultural or societal changes
External pressures and stressors
Financial stress and money issues
Growing apart and changes over time
Health issues and major life changes
Incompatibility
Inflexibility
Lack of appreciation
Lack of commitment and teamwork
Lack of conflict resolution skills
Lack of equality
Lack of forgiveness
Lack of fun, joy, and quality time
Lack of intimacy and emotional connection
Lack of personal growth
Lack of relationship maintenance
Lack of shared goals or vision
Legal and practical challenges
Mental health issues
Parenting conflicts
Sexual incompatibility
Technology and social media
Trust issues, infidelity, or betrayal
Unrealistic comparisons
Unrealistic expectations
Unresolved past issues and emotional baggage
Work and career strains

Appendix 3 – Marriage principles that apply to parenting